- Veronica !, works, studies, is married and takes care of her mother who has a chronic degenerative disease.
- Alma! Takes care of your home: washing, ironing, eating, fixing the house, serving her three small children and of course her husband.
- Mary! She is an executive in an important company, she spends all day fixing her work problems and her schedules do not allow her to rest, she even has more than two years without vacations, so most of the time she feels tired.
What do all these women have in common?: constantly live with stress.
The enormous importance of the participation of women in different areas of life has a cost not only economic, spiritual and social, but also physiological. Being teachers, doctors, perfectionists, friendly, intelligent and multifaceted is reflected in your body and mind.
Who is affected by stress?
You can say that the stress does not respect age, race, schooling, profession, culture, or economic position, of course neither gender. We are all exposed to experience some stressful situation at some time in our lives. However, there are people who are more susceptible to experiencing its effects more negatively, such is the case of sick people, children, who are very shy and of course women who do not have any method to counteract it.
In the sixties, psychiatrists Thomas Holmes and Richard Rahe, developed a scale of social adjustment which envisaged stressors, enlisted by their validity some of them: the death of a family member, separation or divorce, getting married, dismissal, reconciliation with the couple, confrontations with the couple, pregnancy, retirement, when a child leaves home, vacations, change of address or school of the children. Others are like a constant drip and are associated with the chronic stress that some women experience: washing, ironing, making food, bringing and bringing back the children of the school, going shopping at the supermarket, being aware of the services of the house (water, electricity, telephone, etc.), minor or major repairs of the house, homework of children and more.
A situation that causes us tension generates a series of physiological and psychological changes at the same time.Shakespeare said: "things are not good or bad, only the mind makes them". In the same way, with stress being a confrontation or flight response to stressful events, each human being will register it in their mind and body in a different way. Respiratory, gastric, dermatological or cardiac conditions can be sequelae of an emotional imbalance, conditions that are known as psychosomatic and that in Mexico present between 10 and 40 percent of the population. Specialists from the Mexican Social Security Institute (IMSS) indicate that, eventually, emotions can deteriorate health and even generate physical discomforts such as bronchial asthma, colds, obesity, gastric ulcer, rheumatoid arthritis, dermatitis, and arterial hypertension , which could actually be a manifestation of unresolved emotional conflicts. (They affect people's emotional health problems).A stressed person can get sick from the feet to the head and will present the following reactions in your body:Decrease in peripheral blood flow, with the consequent increase in blood pressure (skin, viscera, etc.) for greater irrigation of the brain, heart and adrenal, essential for survival.Increased heart rate (tachycardia).Increased respiratory rate (tachypnea).Iridodilation or myosis, to widen the visual field.Temporary stopping of intestinal transit.Internal sphincter contraction.Inhibition of urination and defecation.Inhibition of sexual arousal mechanisms.Increased perspiration or sweating as a body's cooling mechanism.Piloerección (spiky hairs). (Selye cited in Barrera, 2004)Some reactions that are seen:Isolation.Behave quieter or more reserved than usual.Feeling very sleepy, insomnia or any sleep disturbance. Lack of appetite or overeating (usually due to anxiety).Feeling afraid of doing everyday activitiesFeeling bored or not wanting to do any activity.Appearance of granites or ronchitas (dermatitis) without apparent cause and only in situations of tension.Feeling sick (vomiting, diarrhea or various pains) in advance of events that were pleasant to you before (somatizing problems).Discuss constantly or be upset and intolerant.Expressing fear of something non-specific (distress).Want to run or disappear for a while.The unseen reactions:Sweating feet or hands.Increased heartbeatSweat coldExperience negative thoughts.Nervous colitis.Anxiety (nervousness, although physically they look good).Anguish (fear of something unidentified).Among others, because the list is endless.What are the consequences later?
Generally little attention is paid to stress; Nevertheless, the consequences They can be very serious and can occur, and last from childhood to adulthood, such as:
- emotional instability or poor ability to control your emotions,
- shyness or social phobia: to meet new people, to speak in public, to use public restrooms, to eat in public, to ask a person for information or street, etc,
- Eating disorders: anorexia or bulimia,
- Low self-esteem,
- Learning problems associated with stress,
- Create unconsciously psychosomatic diseases,
- Substance Abuse,
- Complexes: inferiority, greatness, etc.
- Obsessive compulsive disorders,
- Antisocial or diverse behaviors personality disorders.
What to do?
Four simple steps to balance stress
- Identify the sources of stress: It is worth taking an inventory of the things that stress us.
- Restructure Priorities: If I need to do twenty activities, I need to start with one, it can be the simplest or the most complex, but do one at a time.
- Change responses to stress: If I can't change jobs, children, family, then I need to learn to live with the people I have or are around me.
- Find methods to handle it: make use of different activities to balance stressful events (exercise, read, play, watch TV for a while, listen to music, learn relaxation techniques, have a massage, etc.)
It is important that we be able to detect the signals that our body sends us when it is in a stress situation. If we learn to manage our own stress We can even help our family handle it too. It is very convenient:
- Learn relaxation techniques:
- Breathe slowly and deeply
- Visualize positively solving stressful situations (creative visualization)
- To practice activities with the children or the couple that allow to have a healthy coexistence: walking in the forest, playing board games, inventing games, practicing just for fun some sport, etc. Stressed parents have stressed children.
- Listen to music (music therapy).
- Attend a show: theater, dance, cinema, museums (some activities on Sundays are free).
- If the mothers themselves do not know how to manage their stress or that of their children, they can go to professional help.
- An alternative is to take a brief treatment with the low frequency pulsed electromagnetic field technology. It is a therapeutic, painless, completely natural, without side effects and low cost.
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